A few thoughts on friendship

Friendship has been on my mind lately. Here are 5 quick thoughts I have on how to be a good friend. 

1.  Forfeit your right to be right. 

2.  Loyalty isn’t predicated on agreement. 

3.  Never beg someone to be around you. If they don’t want to be in your life, it’s their loss not yours. 

4.  Be the friend you wish you had,  even when it’s not reciprocated. 

5. Be YOU. 

 

The Journey

Life is a journey. A journey worth living, exploring, and enjoying.  Every journey has seasons. Some good season some bad seasons. It’s all a part of the journey. I was once advised that you never enter a new season of life until you have learned all that you need for the next season. Every season builds upon the next. 

Lately it seems people are trying to escape seasons not recognizing seasons mature and grow. Nothing worse than stunted growth. I can remember when someone once told me coffee would stunt my growth. It may have considering I’m 5’11 since I was 17. Either way it was delicious. The point is, what hyper kid needs to drink coffee when he’s 7? It’s not like I needed any energy. So what was it? It was out of my season. Is coffe useful? Yes, in its season. I wanted to seem older, bigger, smarter as if drinking coffee would help me. Have you ever tried to plant something in the wrong season? It won’t work. Why, because seasons matter. In your life’s journey there will be excitement and fulfillment, boredom and routine and even the occasional train wreck. But when you have a dream that is bigger than you personally, that truly embodies all you are and that it will uplift others then you will always have a reason to keep going in your season. 

So how do you enjoy the journey? By understanding seasons. By being present in the moment while knowing the decisions you make are directing you to your future. By submerging into peoples lives, the good and the bad. To give until the stretch is a sacrifice. Find the things in life that pulls you out of your comfort zone to love, be brave, risk and serve. 

“Everywhere we go things get better” 

 

Believe

I enjoy playing games with my mind. Teaching myself to see the good in any situation no matter how I see it. Training my mind to BELIEVE. This is something I have learned to do and you can too.

Let’s get started. What is a belief?

The dictionary defines it as:

1 : a state or habit of mind in which trust or confidence is placed in some person or thing

2 : conviction of the truth of some statement or the reality of some being or phenomenon especially when based on examination of evidence

A belief is something that WE PERSONALLY CHOOSE to form in our own minds about the way WE CHOOSE to perceive the world around us. It is our recognition that some idea or thing is true and valid. 

Again, our beliefs are things that WE DECIDE WE WANT TO THINK are true, based on the information we have taken in up until this point in our lives. 

Our beliefs are based off of OUR PERCEPTION of life, which is based solely on our experiences and knowledge about life. Just because we see something a certain way, does not necessarily mean that’s the way it is in reality. 

When you believe you will succeed or have what you want, you will. It's only a matter of time. Your beliefs are the hard line instructions that your subconscious mind picks up on. This is the real power in believing. Your subconscious mind always responds to your beliefs and creates what you believe.

Here are 8 ways to believe that will challenge your thinking:  

-Believe in fresh starts and new beginnings

-Believe that opportunity is everywhere and all around you 

-Believe you are here for a reason

-Believe that nothing is too good to be true

-Believe you must take a chance

-Believe, when others might not

-Believe that passion persuades

-Believe that some boundaries are meant to be crossed

”Everywhere you go things get better” 

The Purpose

I believe IN purpose; that we are created with a purpose to do more than just exist, but to serve, lead and belong. I believe that my purpose for writing is to encourage someone who is weary, relieve someone who feels they are doing it alone, or lift up someone whose cross is too heavy to bear. I also believe that posting my thoughts publicly will open a door to who I am, what I think about and find encouragement through my vulnerability and authenticity. My hope is that this is a space where readers will find REAL content, unfiltered by the standards of social media, and unwavering in truth. I will talk about life and leadership; what I have learned thus far, and how I became the best version of myself. 

I also believe ON purpose. Meaning, I intentionally believe in something. Whether that is a living God, my children or that I will make a difference in this life, I ON purpose believe; not by accident or on a whim, but a conscious decision to utilize my faith.

Today, ask yourself...

Do you believe IN purpose? If so, do you know your purpose for your life? What have you chosen to believe ON purpose? Is it that you will get that job you so desperately need, that your marriage will make it or you will get that house you have been praying about? 

Let me leave you with this thought. The start to a better world, or a better life, or a better future is simply our belief that it is possible. I hope you can be inspired and affirmed, especially in difficult times. Be reminded that self-confidence can work wonders but mutual confidence can work miracles. No matter what kind of challenge lies before you if somebody believes in you and you believe in your dreams, it can happen. I BELIEVE IN YOU. 

 

“Everywhere we go things get better”